New to relationship. Looking for good books on how to do it right and stop being selfish!?

I'm 30 and new to relationships, and new to my current one. I'm trying to unlearn all the bad habits of selfish singlehood, like thinking of only myself, getting frustrated quickly, taking things too personally, and all those bad ways we men react when we should be attentive and selfless. Looking for recommendations on good books to help train myself how to be a great boyfriend/husband, knock the me!-me!-me! out of my brain, and open up new ways of caring and being selfless that I haven't discovered the wrong way yet. Any recc's?